WHAT DOES IT MEAN ‘BEING WOMAN’ OR 'BEING COCOONED’ OR WHAT IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ‘BEING LONELY’ AND ‘BEING ON YOUR OWN’? ZUZANA ASKS VERY OPENLY MINI CHANDRAN, GENERAL MANAGER OF THE CGH EARTH SWASWARA...
There's a big difference between ‘being lonely’ and ‘being on your own’.
People often tell me: "You must so lonely?" There's all this pitying for women, who are staying on their own. I don't miss anything! Someone told me, that it is because I am ‘at that age’. But I don't think so. I think a lot of people are ‘at that age’ to be comfortable with ‘being on your own’, but maybe they're reluctant to acknowledge it or people around them don't allow them, because we're so boxed in by a society which says one can only be happy if one is with people.
General Manager of CGH Earth SwaSwara
As a woman you need to strike the balance between your family and work. You have to be fully committed in your personal and professional life. For me personally, the call to stay and work at SwaSwara, came at the right time. I was free, my children were grown up and I could take this decision to move out and be able to focus on management of SwaSwara. The Last 10 years in SwaSwara, it has been like watching my own baby growing up and evolving. As a woman I needed such a challenge and creative learning process in my work space too.
I think it reflects the situation in the tourism and hotel industry. I do not think, it’s anything to do with the ayurveda, but sadly enough I must also say, that over the years I have not seen many ayurveda female doctors, who would be involved into ayurveda practices like the men are. Most of them get married and after marriage it's like they kind of fade away somewhere. I don't know why it is. It's the same for the female therapists. It's sad, because I've met a couple of very strong ayurveda women doctors, but they're still not in charge of the department, they're not the heads of department. I'd like to see that happen.
SwaSwara reminds me woman, she can be moody, but still you feel her openness and free flow of all-encompassing energy. I think, this is the Swara of Swa, you can hear that echo the whole way it's built. SwaSwara is a mother, a sister, a healer, it's all there!
Some men call it meddling (laughs)...
It is difficult. It is difficult to show the real face of SwaSwara to the people, convince them to give the chance for healing and at the same time to stay true to traditional and classical ayurveda. I think, it has been a big battle for the most people in the ayurveda industry.
It is female in the majority, but we've started getting more men coming in now. I think, men are finally accepting that they can be open about their fears about their problems, that it is more acceptable for them to. Men also go through the same emotions as women. The problem is, that in my generation, the men were taught not to show their emotions. They had to be the man in the house, but today it's changing.
Not only gender approach is changing, but also the age of our guests. Still the most of our guests belong to so called 'older generation', but we are getting quite a few of the younger women coming in, who are successful, ambitious, but very stressed out. They are afraid to show their weaknesses, but in SwaSwara they are finding the space for'cocooning'.
I always tell people when you come here, it's like getting 'cocooned'. It's like going back into the womb of the mother. It is transformation process after which you emerge as the dragonfly.
SwaSwara is a place where you learn to be comfortable with yourself. Most of us are not happy with ourselves, including me. But I'm fine, I don't feel lonely. There's a big difference between ‘being lonely’ and ‘being on your own’. It's just two very different states of the mind.
People often tell me: "You must be so lonely? Don't you miss this or that?" There's all this pitying for women, who are staying on their own. I don't miss anything! I'm very happy getting up in the morning and being able to hear the birds and just getting on with my life and my interests - with my day panning out the way I want it to.
Someone told me, that this was because I am ‘at that age’. But I don't think so. I think a lot of people are ‘at that age’ to be comfortable with ‘being on your own’, but maybe they're reluctant to acknowledge it or people around them don't allow them, because we're so boxed in with so many people. There is this belief that to be happy one must be in & part of a crowd. You cannot be happy alone.
SwaSwara reminds me of a woman (laughs), she can be moody, but still you feel her openness and free flow of all-encompassing energy. She is a mother, a sister, a healer, it's all there!
I think, this is Swara of Swa, you can hear that echo in the whole way it's built, it is in the sea water, in the forest, the songs of the birds and steps of all the little animals. All this makes this place, it cannot be boxed. To restrict this free flow of energy it would be like putting SwaSwara into a coffin and nailing her down.
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In SwaSwara you evolve along with the place. There's so much openness, that you yourself, start opening up. You see things in a new light and a better perspective. That's what happens in SwaSwara.
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